Comments on: gifts

By: Forex Exchange

Forex Exchange — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:45:17 +0000

I somehow dont agree with a few things, but its great anyways.

By: Lin

Lin — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 19:27:48 +0000

wondering how you are? …and so proud of you for sharing so much…seems as if you are speaking for thousands…and helping thousands…with your heart! for just opening up and sharing…I hope you get thousands back in return…:-)

By: rebecca

rebecca — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 15:55:14 +0000

for many years i was the one that people turned to for help. it was constant; it was draining. it was an “expectation” on their part that came to be from years of me having done so. I was the dependable one, i was the one that would not let them down.

unfortunately, time took its toll because my Self disappeared. i no longer existed. i was not living my life; i was merely here as a tool to help others. it was like i no longer mattered; what mattered was that everyone else was ok and their needs were met. i became angry and resentful. i had become emotionally and physically wasted.

one day i woke up and i had nothing left to give. i was spent, numbed. i realized i no longer wanted to be the one that gave all; i no longer wanted to be the one that everyone turned to for answers. i felt that i would have a breakdown if i didn’t change. and i realized that the only one who could change this was me, no one else. it was as much my fault as theirs. their expectations was one thing, but no one forced me to do it. guilt forced me. but that came from me.

and so i changed. i learned to use to word “no.” it was hard at first, very hard. but in time, it became easier. and today i am free of the guilt that i am expected to have the answers or be the savior. and i am happy. i am here to lend a helping hand IF i can and IF i want. i no longer put myself on the back burner for the sake of another. and though initially i fought with the notion that this was self-serving, in time i came to realize that it was not — it was merely me honoring myself, loving myself. and when i finally found peace and happiness, something wonderful happened – a better part of me was there to give…..when and if i chose.

thank you for that post.

By: Tina

Tina — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 03:12:37 +0000

I can so relate to what you are saying. I went through a period too, where I felt that I was the one people came to all the time about their problems when I had problems of my own as well, but didn’t feel the reciprocation. After letting family members know that I also needed them to help me, that I wasn’t the know all, be all person, they were able to help me and listen to me and my problems as well and that was wonderful.

I’ve also been trying to take that time for me. To say no to things. As my husband says, “to quit having a helium hand”. I do like to help people, I do like to volunteer, but I do realize now that I do need to say no. I need to have that “ME” time for me as well, and also for my family and my sanity.

By: jenica

jenica — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 23:19:28 +0000

thank you lady! i shout *amen!* in your direction!

my unexpected blessings have been:

.:the poverty i lived in as a child, that has taught me maturity with money
.:my parents divorce, that has taught me how to set boundaries with the two of them
.:having four children in 5 years, teaching me love beyond measure and patience that i didn’t know i was capable of.
.:living far away from my family, teaching me to stand on my own and decide for myself what is truly important
.:having a husband that doesn’t agree with everything/anything i say or think, teaching me tolerance and opening my mind to new thinking.

i think you’re amazing. i’m so glad to have your shining magic in my life to boost me up on these dark days. (((hugs)))

By: switchsky

switchsky — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 20:18:48 +0000

My story right now is that I KNOW there is something shining in me, but I am still digging away through the gunk and grime…my excitement is in the anticipation…

By: teresa

teresa — Thu, 06 Dec 2007 16:14:25 +0000

Cancer was my gift. As I recovered from the words – the physical recovery was easier – I found my priorities changing. Many were hurt with me, but I have pruned a lot of the deadwood from my life and today I am stronger and more joyful and more careful to protect myself from being over used.

I love coming here and seeing what you are up too. Best wishes on the Etsy shop.

By: bee

bee — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 16:10:06 +0000

i want to comment on this now…but i have to think about how i want to phrase what i have learned for myself, on this journey, and what i constantly seem to forget…i just wanted to let you know that your words have given me beauty and pause for reflection today. as i am sitting here, a burst of sun just shone through my window…

By: bella

bella — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 03:18:08 +0000

Your voice has been so powerful of late.
It sounds as if, in the process of opening to the unexpected gifts in this life, you have found the gift of your true self. She is stunning.

By: lynne

lynne — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 01:55:36 +0000

once again, your words speak so very clearly.
I’ve been wallowing lately, feeling used and abused and so tired of being tired .. and taken advantage of.
Last night someone I used to “listen to” endlessly connected with me for the first time in a year .. just to say Thank You .. that all my listening, and waiting until asked to advise .. has paid off for her and she’s genuinely happy.
She reminded me I’m pretty wise .. and of value .. and to take my own good advice.
I intend to do so.
always